Today we share with you 8 tips to help you navigate online dating. These tips are useful for, when you are setting up your profile and when you interact with people you meet on dating sites. We believe these tips will help you have a better experience dating online.
Before we share the tips remember to; a) Join a Christian dating site that upholds biblical values.
b) Read reviews of a dating site before you register. You do not want to join one that has bad reviews.
c) Read about their rules/requirements for joining the site. Those that allow easy joining are prone to scammers, so go for those that are strict.
If you are wondering if it is okay for a Christian, to date online, see our post, Should You Date Online if You are a Christian?
Praying is the first thing you need to do. Praying is communicating with God and it shows a surrender to his guidance and will.
Pray because God knows the hearts of everyone on the dating site. And because he knows the heart of everyone on the site, he can guide you to the right person.
When you go through profiles and chat with potential mates, ask God to help you discern who is a true believer. God wants you to pray and he is ready to hear and answer you.
Ephesians 6:18 Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints;
Matthew 26: 41 Watch and pray, that ye enter not into temptation: the spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.
1John 15: 14 And this is the confidence that we have in him, that, if we ask anything according to his will, he heareth us. 15 And if we know that he hear us, whatsoever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we desired of him.
2. Be truthful
When creating your profile be truthful about your beliefs, values, and habits. This will let people like you for who you are. And might also keep away those who do not share or value your beliefs, values, and habits. You do not need them anyway!
Be truthful about the beliefs, values, and habits of the partner you would like. This will let people who fit your description come to you.
Colossians 3: 9 Lie not one to another, seeing that ye have put off the old man with his deeds;
Zephaniah 8: 16 These are the things that ye shall do; Speak ye every man the truth to his neighbour; execute the judgment of truth and peace in your gates:
3. Guard your heart
On a dating site, you are exposed to many people. But you are not sure of their intentions. Therefore, you need to guard your heart. Do not allow anyone who starts a conversation with you, to excite your heart before you know him/her. Some may start a conversation and vanish within days.
When you see a person with a profile that fits the kind of partner you would like, get to know them before your heart clings to them. This will keep you from getting hurt.
Proverbs 4: 23 3 Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.
4. Do not give personal information upfront
Do not give personal information such as phone number, email, home or work address, social media accounts upfront. Give yourself time to know a person and listen to God’s guidance before you trust him/her with such information. There are scammers out there, so, take your time to know a person before you share personal information.
Ephesians 5:15 See then that ye walk circumspectly, not as fools, but as wise,
5. Do not be quick to chat off the dating site
After meeting a potential mate, do not be quick to chat off the dating site. Chat on the dating site till you plan a date. And before you meet for the date, have a voice conversation so that you can pick up some cues that you cannot pick on written messages.
6. Ask the right questions
We believe you know the qualities of the mate you want. Therefore, ask questions that will reveal if he/she has these qualities. Some questions you ask directly and others you pick as you converse. Do not shy from asking questions because you need to know the person to decide if you will date him/her. Asking the right questions will keep you from wasting time with people who do not match who you want.
7. Do not send money
Do not send money to someone you just met. A serious partner will not be asking for money. Most people asking for money are scammers. Be wise!
8. Go on first date in a public place
For your safety, go on a first date in a public palace with good lighting. Inform someone close to you where you will be. You can also ask them to chaperone you.
We believe these tips coupled with trusting God to guide you will help you have a good experience dating online. God’s guidance is above all, so, DO NOT ignore his leading.
God loves you. We pray that he guides you
We love you❤
Mr. & Mrs. Eddie Morgan