Singles tend to postpone being happy hoping to be happy when they marry. This is not the will of God for you. God wants you to be happy now as you wait and in marriage. Below we discuss things that will help you be happy single and will also result in a happier marriage.
1. Focus on growing your relationship with God
1Corinthians7: 32 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord 33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. 34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
Intentionally focus on growing your relationship with God because it will help you be single and happy. This is because God is your creator, he loves you and he is the only true and lasting source of happiness.
Your relationship with God will grow by you knowing God and to know God you need to:
A. Study his word and practice what you study
Studying the Word of God is important because he has revealed himself in his Word. His Word will tell you about Him, you, others, everything about life and how to live it.
Studying the word is important but not beneficial if you will not practice it, just like getting a prescription is good but not beneficial if you do not take the medicine. So, study his word and practice it.
As you study learn the character of God, what he likes and he does not like just like you learn the character, likes and dislikes of a friend. As you learn ask the Holy Spirit to help you be transformed to be more of who God wants you to be.
Studying his word needs time, luckily as a single person you have more time to yourself.
Have a plan of how you will study the bible, have a book and pen so that you can write notes for future reference. See bible reading plans Bible Gateway Bible Reading plans
Discovering who God is and who you are in him will give you great happiness.
B. Spend time talking to God
Honestly talk to God, in prayer, about everything in your life. By the way, he already knows everything but he wants to hear you tell him. This is because he wants to be a friend and father who listens and answers.
He loves to hear you talk to him and we know this because many times in the bible he says, ” pray”.
As your relationship with God grows you will please him and become holy both in body and Spirit. You will experience genuine love because he is the definition of love and you will be single and happy.
2. Love yourself
Love yourself, not like the world’s selfish way of loving yourself. The worldly people love themselves by putting their flesh before God’s will and others. The Christian way of loving yourself is by accepting God’s love for you and appreciating who you are in Him and your worth in Him and extending that to others. The bible tells us to love others like we love ourselves.
Matthew 22: 36 Master, which is the great commandment in the law? 37 Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. 38 This is the first and great commandment. 39 And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. 40 On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets
In loving you, spend time knowing you. Know what are you gifted in, your strengths and weaknesses and what are your values.
An exercise for you – write down your strengths, weaknesses, values, what you are gifted in and what you value in life. Write down how you think you could improve on your weaknesses. Appreciate your strengths and see how you can use them to better your life and be a blessing to others.
Do you enjoy swimming, love flowers, watching comedy, travelling…? Do those things.
On valentine’s day as people get flowers and chocolate from their loved ones, get flowers and chocolate from you. Don’t wait until you are married, let your mate find love in the air.
Loving and understanding you will help you be happy single, happy when in relationship and in marriage.
Because of knowing and understanding you you will be able to choose a mate that suits you.
3. Nature meaningful relationships
Have meaningful relationships that will help you grow your relationship with God and also help you grow in other areas of your life such as career, health, finances .
This relationships could be friendships, relatives, mentors or groups. that share the same values with you.
Alone you can go faster, together you can go far.
This relationships will keep you going and single happy.
Give yourself to serving others. You can serve others in church and in the community.
Feed a hungry child or family or support a children’s home. Visit an elderly person and clean their house or just give them company. Be involved in missions or open air preaching.
Find an opportunity to serve others for the joy and happiness that comes from being a blessing to someone else is priceless!
5. Work on your goals
Life does not begin after marriage, therefore, do not wait until you are married to start working on the things you would like to accomplish in life.
Write down short and long term goals and also write down a plan of how you will accomplish them, then start working on them.
If you are waiting on God for a mate work on the goal of being a godly wife/or husband by reading or listening to materials about marriage.
6. Better the skills you have and or Learn new skills
There is happiness that comes from learning a new skill and improving on your already acquired skills.
You can utilize the internet to better your skills and or learn a new skill.
The skills you learn will keep you busy and you can even use them to earn some extra coins.
Combining this six things will make you happy single and will also grow you in all areas of your life as you wait for God to give you a mate.